Dating as a single parent is not easy. When you are a single parent, many factors come into play, raising the overall complexity of almost everything. And as a consequence, compared to those who are unmarried and single, you must play by different rules in the dating world.
Being a single parent, the main dating rules you need to follow are these:
Rule #1: Prioritize your children
When you are unmarried and single, you have the luxury to pick any person you like to go on dates, have sex with, and even get married! All you have to do is just ask yourself what makes you happy, and roll from there. But, as a parent, you must prioritize your children’s happiness, too. You cannot decrease the amount of time you spend with them, for example, or the level of affection you reward them with. Also, you cannot disregard their opinions concerning your date.
Rule #2: Make safe decisions
In our current world, anonymity is a very real thing. Not everyone is safe and transparent. So, ensuring your family’s safety should be a concern at the back of your mind whenever you date someone as a single parent. Before bringing a date home, make sure that you know the person well. You do not want to be bringing home anyone who can harm you or your children physically, emotionally, or in any other way.
Rule #3: Apply logic when needed
As a free spirit, you can choose to be as much adventurous as you want, treating your heart as the only guide or compass. But, when children are involved, you must take into account logic and reason, along with your emotions. If you are a mom in her 30s, for example, you cannot just go and date a guy in a band who has no idea how he is going to sustain himself in future, even if he makes your heart melt! The same way, if you are a father of 2, you cannot just switch off your head and make a woman your children’s new mom just because her body makes your head spin! You must attempt to find a person who not only makes you happy, but also safeguards your children.
When you date someone as a single parent, it is like your whole family is dating that person. Making the right decisions when dating as a single parent is all about choosing paths which do not tarnish, but build, your family.